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23
Oct
09

There’s got to be more to life than..

  • slaving through 10-hour days to have recognition and a paycheck, where the former is rarely given and the latter is never enough
  • accumulating wealth and material comforts
  •  just praying for peace, instead of starting with our families
  • thinking of what to eat for my next meal or stuffing my face in an all-you-can-eat buffet
  • rushing to get ahead in the escalator / lift, just to be 1 step infront of me
  • allowing our learned prejudices to determine how we view and treat others
  • never-ending exploitation of the weak and less-educated

Life has to be more than just about ME and my circle of friends and family.

23
Oct
09

Photolog: Crab Art

In case you're wondering, the sand is pushed out as the crab burrows into his nest.  Thus making this unique patterns.

In case you're wondering, the sand is pushed out as the crab burrows into his nest. Thus making this unique patterns.

22
Oct
09

Taxi Fare in Singapore

Although Singapore is a small country and well connected by trains and buses, the most convenient mode of transportation is taxi.  It also happens to be the most expensive.  The flag-down of S$2.80 is comparable to taxis in Hong Kong and Malaysia but what makes it painful is all the surcharges.  Peak-hour surcharge is 35% of the metered fare, surcharge for pick-up in the central business district area and airport is extra, booking fee is according to the time of call.  When all the surcharges are added up, the fare may cost more than 3 meals in the local foodcourt.  I found this really neat website that calculates the fare and gives you an idea of how much to expect.

21
Oct
09

Christianity and its many branches

I stepped into a cab today that was adorned with many Christian propaganda.  Before I continue, I should say that I am a Christian, which may qualify me to have these opinions.   The driver had put several printed material in the backseat pocket and the headlines that screamed at me were “Tribulation is at hand – Repent”.  Sounds severe, doesn’t it.  I naturally picked it up for a read and the first few sentences put me off. 

The article was basically preaching the gloom and doom of the end of the world, which it says is very near.  It continued to say that when the end of the world comes, Jesus will save his followers, i.e. if non-Christians do not repent and convert, they will perish.  Even as a Christian, I found this article to be shockingly radical and wonder whether it would work to convert non-believers or only put them off Christianity.  

Despite me telling him that I was a Christian, the driver continued to “sell” his church.  I must give him credit for his perseverance and his strong belief.  He gave me several more articles to take-away and invited me to his church.  I’ve read the articles and it was more of the same radical teachings.  As an example, one line in the article said (and I’m paraphrasing) that XXX Church (his church) is the only true church and when the end of the world comes, only those within this church will be saved – typical sect ideology.  

Christianity is about love, kindness, tolerance and acceptance, virtues that are preached by most other religions.  If we have any hope of converting non-believers to our faith, it will be by living these virtues and not by using scare tactics.   And yet, such scare tactics do work.  Radicalism in Islam is an example of how people believing in deviant teaching are inspired to kill others in the name of religion. 

There was a line in the article that I agreed with, which is the many denominations in Christianity are actually different interpretations of the bible, based on man’s ideologies.  What I think is important is not which Christian branch or religion we belong to, rather how we live our Faith.

15
Oct
09

Singlish – cannot meh?

Am currently in Singapore and happened to tune into a talk-show, discussing the virtues of Singlish.  The panel was made up of 3 gwailos and 2 locals.   The show started off by asking whether singlish is an acceptable language and the locals defended it as useful for communication in Singapore.  The bigger question was whether Singaporeans are able to switch from Singlish back to the Queen’s English, when required.  I speak Manglish, which is similar to Singlish and have no problems switching to proper English when required.  I thought everyone was the same, until I heard one of the locals speak.  Although she spoke with proper grammar and used appropriate words, what gave it away was her accent.  It was thick Singaporean accent!  It was quite a defining moment as I never knew there was a distinctive Singaporean or Malaysian English accent.

One of the gwailo host, who has lived in Singapore for many years, recounted how when he first arrived, he did not understand what language the locals used.  It was English except not the English he knew.  My friends in Hong Kong, have pestered me to speak Manglish just for a good laugh.  It cannot be turned on or off but put me with a fellow Malaysian or Singaporean and it comes out without hesitation.

My mother was an English teacher and pride herself in making sure that her children all spoke proper English.  I thought I spoke proper English, until I moved to Hong Kong.  Others could not understand Manglish, so I was forced to speak proper English (without accent) all the time.  I used the word “forced” because it required effort to pronounce words completely and not resort to short-form or Bahasa, every now and then.   Manglish has mangled the English language, so much so that we have invented words that don’t exist in the Dictionary, like “gostan” or my favorite expression “die-die” (which means, there is no choice it has to be done). 

At the end of the day, language is a means of communication.  If both side understand each other, than the communication was effective.  So when in Singapore, speak Singlish.

13
Oct
09

Mother Teresa said…

Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.

08
Oct
09

Autumn is finally here

She’s late but welcomed no less.  Temperatures has been falling ever so slightly these few days and today, it was below 30′c the whole day.   While walking home earlier, I felt a cool breeze and that’s when I realised that Autumn had arrived.  Meteorologically Autumn starts in September, so she is a month late!  In fact we celebrated Mid-Autum Festival last weekend, still in the heat of summer.

Of the 4 seasons, Autumn is the BEST of them all because we get the coolness without the humidity, hardly any rainfall and no need for the heaters.

07
Oct
09

Ordinary People, Extraordinary Impact

A friend sent me this link -  to vote for CNN Hero of the year.  The catch line is “Ordinary People, Extraordinary Impact“, which is quite poignant.   One story touched me and I’ve shared it below.  If you can, visit the link and vote for your choice.  Here’s one way you can make an impact and help these heroes with their mission.

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Pilot moonlights as father to 47

  • Story Highlights
  • Budi Soehardi founded an orphanage to help children in Indonesia
  • “Mr. Budi is like my own father,” one resident says
  • Soehardi and his wife harvest their own rice to sustain the orphanage’s food supply
  • Vote now for the CNN Hero of the Year at CNN.com/Heroes

KUPANG, Indonesia (CNN) – At Roslin Orphanage, children giggle through deep concentration as they try to master the “Chicken Dance.” It’s a far cry from the Indonesian orphans’ earlier months and years.

“They are cheerful-looking and photogenic, but close to all have a very sad story,” said Budi Soehardi, founder of the West Timor orphanage.

“Some of the babies come because a mother passes away right after delivery because of lack of nutrition. Others come from extreme poverty. Some come from families [that] just do not want the children and abandon them,” he said. Vote now for the CNN Hero of the Year

Soehardi, a 53-year-old Indonesian pilot living in Singapore, and his wife, Peggy, look after 47 children at the orphanage. They have a personal relationship with each one, and consider them part of their family. The couple named many of the children since they entered the orphanage as babies — some of them tiny victims and refugees from the conflict in East Timor.

Soehardi has three children of his own but says there is no difference between what he supplies for his biological children and those living at the orphanage. They all get clean living spaces, vaccinations, food, clothing and vitamins from the United States.

“Mr. Budi is like my own father,” said Gerson Mangi, 20, a resident at Roslin Orphanage. Mangi, who came to the orphanage when he was 12 years old, had no means to attend school after his parents died. Now, thanks to the educational training at Roslin and a private sponsor, he is in medical school.

Soehardi, whose father died when he was 9 years old, can relate to these young people’s hardships.

“Food was hard to come by and my school fee was very difficult,” Soehardi said. “The refugees just really strike me so badly and [I want] them to be better off.”

Young victims of a fight for independence

A 1999 news report on the situation in East Timor inspired the Soehardis to take action.

Soehardi was eating dinner and watching CNN with his wife and family at home in Singapore when he saw the plight of the refugees fleeing East Timor for West Timor, Indonesia. Families were living in cardboard boxes, children were wearing rags for clothes, and sanitation was nonexistent.

“It was devastating,” Soehardi said.

The poor conditions were a result of conflicts in East Timor that surfaced after the residents voted for independence from Indonesia. Following the election, militias — with support from Indonesian security forces — launched a campaign of violence throughout the region. Hundreds of East Timorese were killed, and as many as 250,000 were displaced from their homes, according to the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees.

The Soehardis had been planning on taking a vacation, but watching the news made them rethink their plans.

“[My wife and I] look at each other and we have a thought of our own. … ‘Hey, let’s do something else. Why don’t we visit the place … to make a different kind of holiday,’ ” Soehardi said.

He began coordinating financial donations, food, clothing and supplies. With help from friends and ground volunteers, the Soehardis navigated the conflict-ridden areas and delivered more than 40 tons of food, medical supplies and toiletries to East Timor refugee camps.

Soon the Soehardis determined West Timor could use a space for orphans.

“My wife was initially asking me to build three rooms. Then two hours later she [asked for] five rooms, and then later nine rooms and finally, the orphanage building.”

They completed their orphanage building in 11 months and named it Roslin Orphanage, after a pair of Timorese women whom Peggy looked up to as a girl.

In April 2002, the orphanage opened and provided a home for four children. Since then the residence has expanded to provide free education, clothing, housing and food for 47 children of all ages, newborns to university-age. About half of its residents are younger than 8 years old. VideoWatch Soehardi teach the children the alphabet »

An unexpected harvest

The orphanage was built on donated land that the Soehardis initially thought bore barren soil. But today, the rice they feed the children comes solely from their own land.

“We dared to take the challenge,” said Soehardi of his foray into irrigation. He and Peggy, who are not trained in agriculture, used two pumps and a generator to get water for irrigation.

Then they began planting rice. “One hundred days later, we were having our first harvest and declared ourselves to be self-sufficient on rice for the orphanage children,” he said. VideoWatch Soehardi explain how he made the land more fertile »

It’s a fortunate cost-cutting tactic, especially with Soehardi losing his piloting job in November because of the struggling economy.

Soehardi, whose pilot salary goes toward maintaining the orphanage and funding medical student Mangi’s education, is hopeful that the end of his contract will not affect the children’s well-being.

“To help these children is a privilege for me and my wife because it’s giving back to society … giving back what has been blessed to us.”

Want to get involved? Check out Roslin Orphanage and see how to help.

05
Oct
09

Introduction to Sailing

On a whim, I decided to sign up for an introductory course on sailing.  This happened just this past weekend of Oct 3rd and 4th.  I was initially unsure if I would go, owing to possible jetlag from the long-haul trip.  In fact, maybe it was a little ambitious as I returned on Friday night and would need to wake up at 6am the next day, to make the long trip to the venue.  I didn’t sleep on Friday night, not sure whether from jetlag or from excitement.

The course is organised by the HK Government’s Leisure and Cultural Dept and because it is subsidised by the Government,  it was only HKD180 for the 2 days.  This is another example of Wonderful HK, where we actually enjoy the benefits of paying taxes.  During the course of 2 days, we learnt how to set up our dingy (its called a Topper) – a single man boat, how to manage it, rules of the road and got alot of practise.  I liked that we got a chance to practise everything that was taught.  Day 1 was interesting as we learnt the basics.  In the afternoon, we got a chance to get into the dingy and sail.  Thankfully the wind was low and although we didn’t get to go very fast, it made it easier to manage.  

Day 2 was more painful, owing to the stronger winds.  The thing about sailing especially on non-powered boats, you really are at the mercy of the winds.  I tried reassuring myself that, it’s just like learning to drive but that is so inaccurate.  When driving a car, you are mostly in control but with sailing, the winds can be as unpredictable as emotions during PMS!  Maybe with experience, I may be able to anticipate changes in wind direction and force and this will allow me to have more control over the boat but for a beginner, I really struggled to remain onboard!

Throughout the practise session, most of the time was spent reacting to changes in wind force, trying to remember all the principles that I’d learnt, leaning out over the edge to act as a balance to the boat (that part was fun), always mindful of the boom  in case it swung unexpectedly etc.  As with most things in life, confidence makes a difference and I did not have the confidence to manage in the strong winds.  It was unfortunate that I’d capsized during an attempt to make a right turn (also called a Gybe).  I’m not sure what happened except that I was thrown off the boat and the boat turned upside down.   This meant that its bottom was facing the sky and the sail was in the water.  We had been taught how to right the boat, if it capsized and I tried with all my might to turn it over but it didn’t budge.  I got weak from my failed attempts and finally had to wave for help.  The instructor had to come to help me right it and it took alot of strength because the sail was in the water.  I didn’t have the strength to lift myself up onto the boat, after it was righted and had to be pulled up by the instructor.  While floating in the sea waiting for help, I had a thought that if I was alone I couldn’t give up and ask for help.  At the same time, I felt hopeless in the situation and thought as a last resort, I would abandon ship and swim back to shore.

Overall the experience was quite intense and I’ve decided that sailing is more fun when it is done in a team.  I found it very physically demanding to manage alone.  It does require alot of strength to be able to lift the boat and fit all the parts together and of cause, when righting a capsized boat.  From the emotional aspect, sailing alone is not much fun.  Firstly, your full attention is on managing the boat that you don’t see any of the beautiful surroundings.  Secondly, if you do get a chance to view a beautiful scenery, you have no one else to share it with. 

Prepared Toppers waiting to be sailed.  Because of the strong winds, the sails had to be shortened so that it would catch less wind

Prepared Toppers waiting to be sailed. Because of the strong winds, the sails had to be shortened so that it caught less wind

04
Oct
09

Advice on Marriage

I went to Church today and the sermon was on faithfulness.  During the sermon the priest had joked that he had very limited experience in being married (Catholic priest take a vow of celibacy and do not marry) and is probably not able to give an opinion.  However he has counseled many married couples with problems and shared his observation with us.  He thought that the more important factor to a successful marriage is to continue to communicate with your partner.  Maybe this sounds like a no-brainer but I found it thoughtful when he mentioned it.  Our normal reaction when we are upset with our partners is to give the cold treatment (abandonment) or worst, be hostile.  When what we really need to do to limit damage from that situation is to communicate, rationally and closely.  Instead of viewing our partner as the enemy, we should be viewing them as our partner in resolving a situation that hurts us both. 

At the end of his sermon, he prayed that we will continue to love, to communicate and be faithful in making relationships work.  I’d read somewhere that Love is not a feeling but a decision.  Physical attraction may be a feeling but if it is not sustained by mutual respect, confidence and dependence on each other and a strong commitment to work together, those feelings may change.  Feelings are unreliable like that.

I got valuable advice today and though it may surprise some that it came while attending church, I’ve realized that advice is available as long as I’m listening and paying attention.